Some things are changing, but my love for you remains the same
Attention! This will be my last newsletter to arrive on Friday. From next week on I’ll be publishing this baby on Sundays. Do not be alarmed when this doesn’t show up on Friday. Hold on!
IF YOU LIKE THE SOUND OF MY VOICE
The League of Awkward Unicorns, Episode 20: It’s okay to suck a little bit (with Paolo Zambrano):
We chat with writer/performer Paolo Sambrano about how he turned his struggles with bipolar disorder into a one-man show (as you do). Also: the pros and cons of treating your body like it’s a coding project, why I can’t meditate, when self-care becomes another form of disordered thinking, and is everything out of reach because you ate gluten once?
TueNight's Pussy Party
This Thursday night I’m reading with a group of other wonderful writers. You can probably guess from the name that the readings will not be G-rated. Hosted by TueNight, proceeds from the event benefit RAINN (The nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization) and Crisis Text Line—and the Harnisch Foundation will be matching donations!
LINKS THAT HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH ME
I’m not an asshole, I’m an introvert
If a friend texts me, “Hey, you’re twenty minutes late! You promised you wouldn’t flake again, are you still coming?” or “emergency i need your help please call me asap,” I just won’t do it. When you think about it, it’s sort of selfish of them to demand that I talk to them on the phone even after I’ve told them multiple times that I’m an introvert.
I mean, they've been told.
If women wrote men the way men write women
Hugin was chosen, among all the boys of the village, to compete in the Races. He had grown up, the child of a simple, lovely baker, and his wife, the wolf-hunter. Hugin wore his hair in simple golden waves and had the longest legs anyone had ever seen, coated in fine, silky down. When the yearly selection began, other boys watched Hugin. They knew he would be the one, and they pouted.
Hugin, you slut.
Roxane Gay lists 13 rules for female friendships
5. Want nothing but the best for your friends because when your friends are happy and successful, it’s probably going to be easier for you to be happy.
5A. If you’re having a rough go of it and a friend is having the best year ever and you need to think some dark thoughts about that, do it alone, with your therapist, or in your diary so that when you actually see your friend, you can avoid the myth discussed in Item 1.
5B. If you and your friend(s) are in the same field and you can collaborate or help each other, do this without shame. It’s not your fault your friends are awesome. Men invented nepotism and practically live by it. It’s okay for women to do it too.
Roxane Gay is the best friend we should all have but she can't be everyone's best friend, you guys. Fortunately we have her writing to guide us.
Watch: A Stranger Things Christmas
This is perfect.
See you next Sunday,
Alice